“The primary difference
between rich people and poor people is how they handle fear”. ... Robert
Kiyosaki
"Fear = False
Evidence Appearing Real”
No matter what we try to
think is our major hindrance, fear will always be one of the underlying snake
creeping silently in our everyday decisions and actions that we try in order to
pull ourselves up. It’s a monster we have to face because we have developed it
for far too long a time since childhood. But it’s time we showed fear the door
out of our lives. Probably the windows too!
Let me share with you
tips I learnt from an article by Gin Ng Khin Wee on 10 steps you can take to
deal with fear;
Fear of failing, of
course everyone does fear no matter how successful they are. One key thing
about how we should handle fear is using it as fuel to motivate us and pushing
us even further to learn more. Once we know more about issues triggering fear, it's very natural that we will start to have less fear and self-doubt as we face life in general. Self-doubt and
fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear
are the voices in our head telling us, "You'll never succeed, so why
try?" and "who do you think you are?" Self-doubt and fear are
also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we even get
started.
While many people
experience self-doubt and fear at some point in their lives, they take action
anyway. Others remain stuck or are confident in only one area of their life,
such as work. They are too afraid to try new things like going back to school,
entering new relationships or learning new skills. When we let self-doubt and
fear rule our lives, we miss opportunities. We predict and believe that nothing
good will happen to us, so we don't try anything new, and refuse to take even
low-level risks. This leads us to discount people or situations that could help
us reach our goals. While self-doubt and fear can come in different forms and
from different sources, we can learn to break through them.
- Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting that they exist can you seek solutions. Complaining about them will not make the fears go away. It only re-enforces the presence of fear
- Write down how these fears affect your life. You can’t
start a business venture or you can’t even apply for a job because of fear
- Become aware of the voices in your head and write down those negative messages. This gives you an opportunity to change the message.
If the voices are saying you are ugly, then you can build yourself by
telling yourself that you are beautiful and there is none like you
- Start building a support system of friends and
eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity. Some people are just too anointed to be negative such that when they come into your presence, all your talk just goes negative by default. Begin to stay away from such. You will suffer no losses than you already are
- Join a support group of people who have similar issues.
A group that has a resolve to rid themselves of the fears, not the ones
who want to celebrate the fears
- Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive. Keep affirming to yourself every day until the words
become part of you and your vocabulary
- Read books that help you feel better about yourself.
Stay away from unnecessarily sad stories that do not have the good gaining
the final victory
- Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it.
Remember there is nothing you can do about the past which is already gone
but you can certainly do something about today which is within your control
- List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them. Don’t start worrying about ‘How’ the goals will be achieved but concentrate on ‘What’ you want to achieve and start the journey. You will
soon realize that everything is falling in place
- Take one of those actions every day. Each time you do something that brings you closer to achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself. When fears and self-doubts come back, and they still do, I break through them by using the tools and skills I've learned and now teach. They work
Don't
enjoy being afraid just because you think not taking actions in life keeps you
safe from the consequences of failure or ridicule from others. Just know one
thing;
'THERE IS NO SAFE PLACE IN LIFE BECAUSE NO ONE GETS OUT OF LIFE ALIVE'
Rather
than wasting time with fear, you better start dancing with life at its maximum
or else life will pass you by and find another dancing partner. And you will
always be in the stands of life as a spectator of the change instead of being
the change
Rather than wasting time with fear, you better start dancing with life at its
maximum or else life will pass you by and find another dancing partner. And you
will always be in the stands of life as a spectator of the change instead of
being the change
