Living Your Own Life for YOU

A quote from the daily motivation series caught my attention and it goes like "Let go of trying to control the different versions of you that are created in other people's minds. Everyone you meet will perceive you based on their mindset and experiences"

Often, these perceptions are influenced by hearsay and gossip. How can these perceptions decide what you are worth?

You can't let your sense of wellbeing be dependent on the minds of other people. There's a beautiful freedom that comes with letting go of the need to seek the validation of the world

Imagine always asking other people to tell you what is appropriate for you to wear or what career is good for you to make a living or how you should walk or carry yourself in the presence of other people. No wonder we have ended up in the professions we are not even happy to be. No wonder we spend more time in front of a mirror trying to figure out the version of ourselves that would be acceptable in public.

What a stressful life we try to live. Starting today, send everyone else's opinion about your life to hell and if one hell is not enough, try 10

Cheer up You are the only one on Earth that looks like you and beside you, there is no other comparable to you. That's enough to make you feel special. Anything else you try to be, you will always end up with a predictable outcome, "a PHOTOCOPY" which is never ever your potion.

The great achievements of tomorrow follow the steps you are ready to take today: "From Pain to Power"

“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Do you wonder why every time you go to try and buy something nice for yourself such as a dress or pair of trousers in an exclusive shop or boutique and the first thing you do is to look at the price of a particular item you seem interested in? Why can’t you just go in and pick what you want and pay for it without worrying about the price? Isn’t it frustrating that the type of clothes you would really want to have seem always above your paycheck?  The kind of clothes that represents, correctly of wrongly, the wealthy portrayal of you, and in your mind seem to be worn by other people who you label as crooks to earn the kind of money to afford luxuries. No! They may not be crooks. Most of them are just ordinary people who have made decisions to take relevant actions to better their lives 

The truth in life is that we all need money to help answer to all the things we need; Food, shelter, clothes, entertainment and everything else in the hierarchy of our needs. We desire wealth and abundance but we may not realize that everything we believe to have or not to have, all flows from the dominant perceptions that we have developed in the course of our life’s journey.

Some wise man once wrote “How you perceive wealth and abundance is a very personal thing. For some, wealth means having a comfortable life for themselves and their family. For others, wealth means living a life of luxuries and not having to worry about a budget. How you define and perceive wealth and abundance is entirely up to you”.

Wealth and money do not flow in a vacuum. Money follows purpose anyway, why should money flow to you when you have no purpose for it? That is the reason why big money won through lottery has been known to be lost within a short period by the winner. Anything you do not understand, you will abuse. If one does not understand the purpose of a wife, wife abuse will be prevalent and vice versa.

One lesson I have learnt in achieving the little and big things in life is to realize that the results of tomorrow depend entirely on the steps and actions taken today. I don’t need to expect to harvest maize tomorrow when I haven’t planted any today. What is cardinal is that I must build the mindset of change. The mindset of imagining the life that I desire to live and explore the changes I need to make in my personal life in order to achieve it. Above all the mindset to love wealth and money. Anything you love, you will always attract into your life and what you hate will always elude you. How many people do you hate and are your friends? My guess is that the people you love have become your friends and some probably your spouse. I have rarely seen a couple that hate each other with a passion and are still married if not divorced or on their way there. Do something today that enables you to conquer tomorrow. The only one you need to rescue you is yourself and the perceptions that you have developed about wealth and abundance which you can share with others that God will put in your life’s path. Poverty is not an item that you must strive to share.

 

One Page in a very Long Book of Life! "From Pain to Power"

 "You are not defined by what happens to You, But what you do with what happens to you defines the real YOU"

Life was never designed to be made of "a bed of roses" for anybody. From life's experiences, pain seems to be the bedrock on which countless lives are built. It all seems like the devil is the default entity from which everything flows in this life. When you ask the next person you meet on your way around, I bet you will hear the degree to which they tell the pain which has disabled them in the story of life. It's as if God the almighty has abandoned humanity.

You may have been abused to the point of even attempting suicide, probably even wrongly imprisoned for something you may not have done. Just remember one thing, the bigger the destiny, the higher the 'pain-ometer' required to birth it. You may even wonder why everybody around could even be throwing trash or call it 'shit' on you for no good reason and whatever you do, people always look for what is wrong with it. Have you ever woke up and the first thing that crosses your mind is how you expect things to go wrong in your life?

Take comfort in the fact that everything you are seeing right now was designed for you by the Almighty not by accident but by purpose. Even when you feel like you are being buried under the trash that life keeps heaping on you, just know that you are a seed from God and seeds always grow under trash. The 'shit' that life is throwing at you is the fertilizer you actually need to shoot above the ground into the Power of your destiny. It's time to turn the Shit into Fertilizer just the same way that plants grow wonderfully under manure or fertilizer is the same way your life will blossom through the shit or pain of life.

The wisdom that you may have today was developed out of the pain that life allowed you to go through. Don't even cry over a failed relationship, Yes it failed and that was just one page in your long book of life. One closed door must give way to another new door to open because tomorrow is a new day and you will celebrate and thank yesterday's pain for ushering you into a new joyful day.

Pain is God's setup for your Powerful comeback. The pain we experience was never meant to last forever unless you allow it yourself by reliving your painful past today. It's just like the pain of childbirth which may endure for a moment but joy comes in the morning and we celebrate the coming of a newborn baby. 

We were designed to grow from pain. Even when you have achieved a certain level of success, don't get comfortable because life will conspire against you and bring the pain needed to push from where you are to another level because the top is always vacant and the bottom is always overcrowded. Look forward to good things coming into your life. It doesn't matter what your reality may look like today. 

Whatever you are going through today is just one page in your long book of success that God put together for you even before you were conceived, with a happy and joyful ending already decided. In essence, God did not allow you to be born before your successful end was completed. Everything you are going through good or bad is meant to propel you towards your glorious destiny. Don't bring the after-life heaven, into this mix.

God has not abandoned anyone, He has trust in the power and potential of what He created (man) to overcome, build and prosper. Don't misguide yourself and keep telling yourself that you are waiting for God. No! God is waiting on you to take up the rod of power in you to hit the surface of the red sea of life so that you cross into whatsoever you desire.

Be WISE

In the Shadows

"I decided long ago never to walk in anyone's shadow; if I fail, or if I succeed at least I did as I believe" ~Whitney Houston

What if everything we thought we knew to be true was all wrongs? We pray, we go to church every Sunday and we fast, yet we wallow in poverty and when lucky we live paycheck to paycheck. Our Land is full of mineral wealth yet our currencies are worthless. Our countries are in debt yet our land is host to vast mineral wealth worth a thousand times more than the debt we owe to other nations. We are demeaned every day for the poverty that seems to be in abundance in our communities yet we are sitting on Gold, Copper, Cobalt the list is endless. 

We think we know God and talk to him every day yet he seems not to reveal nothing to us on getting our land out of poverty, how ironic! Yet we seem to know more about demons and their names plus how to get rid of them. We are taught about Angels except they should be white in color yet if you dream of a black angel it must be a demon sent from the devil's bedroom to haunt you.

In the Shadows of those who control the world, we have been hypnotized to slumber and sleepwalk through life with the illusion that we are educated and civilized. We hold the holy books and declare we are free. Free to do what? and freedom from what?

Have we been asleep too long that we have even mistaken the shadow for light? We have been holding the holy books with content already interpreted for us to suit the objective of an enslaving cartel! Hence we believe we know the truth and walk in that truth. The system has even been designed for us to be educated to retire and not to make a life

We have been made to think and believe we walk in the light but have never stopped to think and realize that we have been living in the shadows or else why are we still impoverished even after getting more than educated including getting born again in the chosen religion. 

OH! we have been given the ultimate prize, HEAVEN!. Well nobody goes to heaven alive. Whatever you want to achieve and enjoy can only be done right here on earth in your earthly body with the God-given potential locked inside of you waiting to make you the King or the Queen you were meant to be

THINK ABOUT IT

 

'THERE IS NO SAFE PLACE IN LIFE BECAUSE NO ONE GETS OUT OF LIFE ALIVE'

 “The primary difference between rich people and poor people is how they handle fear”. ... Robert Kiyosaki

"Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real”

No matter what we try to think is our major hindrance, fear will always be one of the underlying snake creeping silently in our everyday decisions and actions that we try in order to pull ourselves up. It’s a monster we have to face because we have developed it for far too long a time since childhood. But it’s time we showed fear the door out of our lives. Probably the windows too!

Let me share with you tips I learnt from an article by Gin Ng Khin Wee on 10 steps you can take to deal with fear;

Fear of failing, of course everyone does fear no matter how successful they are. One key thing about how we should handle fear is using it as fuel to motivate us and pushing us even further to learn more. Once we know more about issues triggering fear, it's very natural that we will start to have less fear and self-doubt as we face life in general. Self-doubt and fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear are the voices in our head telling us, "You'll never succeed, so why try?" and "who do you think you are?" Self-doubt and fear are also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we even get started.

While many people experience self-doubt and fear at some point in their lives, they take action anyway. Others remain stuck or are confident in only one area of their life, such as work. They are too afraid to try new things like going back to school, entering new relationships or learning new skills. When we let self-doubt and fear rule our lives, we miss opportunities. We predict and believe that nothing good will happen to us, so we don't try anything new, and refuse to take even low-level risks. This leads us to discount people or situations that could help us reach our goals. While self-doubt and fear can come in different forms and from different sources, we can learn to break through them.

• Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting that they exist can you seek solutions. Complaining about them will not make the fears go away. It only re-enforces the presence of fear

• Write down how these fears affect your life. You can’t start a business venture or you can’t even apply for a job because of fear

• Become aware of the voices in your head and write down those negative messages. This gives you an opportunity to change the message. If the voices are saying you are ugly, then you can build yourself by telling yourself that you are beautiful and there is none like you

• Start building a support system of friends and eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity. Some people are just too anointed to be negative such that when they come into your presence, all your talk just goes negative by default. Begin to stay away from such. You will suffer no losses than you already are

• Join a support group of people who have similar issues. A group that has a resolve to rid themselves of the fears, not the ones who want to celebrate the fears

• Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive. Keep affirming to yourself every day until the words become part of you and your vocabulary

• Read books that help you feel better about yourself. Stay away from unnecessarily sad stories that do not have the good gaining the final victory

• Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it. Remember there is nothing you can do about the past which is already gone but you can certainly do something about today which is within your control

• List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them. Don’t start worrying about ‘How’ the goals will be achieved but concentrate on ‘What’ you want to achieve and start the journey. You will soon realize that everything is falling in place

• Take one of those actions every day. Each time you do something that brings you closer to achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself. When fears and self-doubts come back, and they still do, I break through them by using the tools and skills I've learned and now teach. They work

 Don't enjoy being afraid just because you think not taking actions in life keeps you safe from the consequences of failure or ridicule from others. Just know one thing;

'THERE IS NO SAFE PLACE IN LIFE BECAUSE NO ONE GETS OUT OF LIFE ALIVE'

Rather than wasting time with fear, you better start dancing with life at its maximum or else life will pass you by and find another dancing partner. And you will always be in the stands of life as a spectator of the change instead of being the change

Rather than wasting time with fear, you better start dancing with life at its maximum or else life will pass you by and find another dancing partner. And you will always be in the stands of life as a spectator of the change instead of being the change

Worry No More

 

Erma Bombeck once wrote, “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” Why should anyone spend valuable time on issues that are beyond one's control? And why worry over spilled milk? You may have lost a job or lost the love of your life! It could be anything but it's time one made up their mind to move forward and start afresh. Therefore, how can one stop worrying?

In this article, I will highlight 4 ways of dealing with worry I found interesting out of the 6 ways illustrated by Amy Morin, in an article written in Psychology Today titled” 6 Ways to Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Change.

Determine What You Can Control; it is mare foolishness to think you can make the sun never go down and allow nighttime to come. Whether one likes it or not Day and Night will never cease. Generally in life, we may not be in control of what happens to us but we are in control of how we react to what happens to us

Focus on your influence; it is usually to wise to poke into other people’s business in which you have no authority to change or influence anything. One may be accused of trespassing. Let us focus on areas where we have 100% influence to make changes

Identify your fears; everyone is afraid of something like there are many people afraid of death. Well talking about death, it’s a well-known fact that no one will ever get out of life alive! It’s that simple. Some have the fear of failure. Identify your fears and accept them. Accepting your fears is the first step to begin to do something about them in order to move forward in life.

Develop healthy affirmations; worry is usually expressed in words through negative affirmations like “I know things will not work out like the last time”. However, why not develop positive affirmations “ I know things will work out for my good”, “I am blessed” “I will achieve success”, ”I am wonderfully and beautifully created” as the bible says in proverbs “ As Man thinks in his heart so is he”

Stop the Worry culture that is holding you back today

The Side of YOU, not even You knew existed!

" It doesn't matter where you are born, it could be in a Manger. But in God's mind, it is a setup for Christmas and not for you to become a Donkey" You are destined for Greatness

YOU are the kind that turns water into wine, the side that turns a moment of sorrow into springboards for greater exploits. The Kind that creates a table in the presence of thine enemies. The you that the Devil left with Marks of Triumph. The YOU who is wonderfully and beautifully made beyond anyone's wildest dreams. The YOU who can never be duplicated. The one with the Potential to do far above and beyond the imagination of what anyone in this life can fathom. The YOU who is God's best-kept secret until now. The You under whom life awaits instructions to carry out your wishes, the YOU with the tongue of authority that whatever you can declare in this life will come to pass

You are the one who was created self-contained that you don't even need an electric charger in order to live. You are the kind that is able to stand on two legs firmly without a third pillar to keep your posture.

MAN, WOMAN, the divine is waiting for your action to turn this world into a better place for all humanity.

Let no one cheat you that they know the details about your great because the Creator was so wise and He hid your bright future inside of YOU. And it is only you who can bring it out. Simple as that.

Be inspired today